June 15, 2015
June 15, 2015
Experiencing "The Now"
I KNEW A WOMAN WHO WOULD PURCHASE CLOTHES THAT SHE LIKED, KEEP THEM FOR A FEW DAYS AND RETURN THEM BECAUSE SHE WAS UNABLE TO AFFORD THEM.
To my knowledge, she never wore them. She just wanted to have the feeling that she possessed whatever she wanted. She did this behavior continually. The manner in which she tried to be happy is not the issue. That is not the point that I am making.
Instead, her behavior is a kind of metaphor to live in the NOW. I don’t know if she was aware of what she was doing. It kept her out of jail and she did not have to file bankruptcy for purchasing more than she could afford.
In a very unique fashion, she was on to something. She was celebrating her happiness for a short period of time and not regretting her loss when she returned the items. As I counsel people, I find that they want to harangue about the damage- and deny the positives of the past. Mourning the loss of the good by focusing solely on the adverse, they are unable to move forward. They do not celebrate the part of life that was favourable. In reviewing the best parts of their liaison, they need to repeat and emphasize those actions that brought them to their former euphoria.
I had experienced what I perceived as the first love of my life, only to realise that it was only a fantasy and the reality would be a living Hell. Therefore, I quickly abandoned it, but I did not wish to abandon the fabulous “in Love” feelings that I had. So I decided to keep the feelings and discard the blooming relationship. The gentleman never knew of my decision to do either. I gently withdrew, allowing him to feel that he had been the one to withdraw.
These examples and the metaphor of the woman who grabs pleasant moments has a secret to life. Her secret: TO EXPERIENCE LIFE. KEEP WHAT IS GOOD AND MAKES YOU HAPPY. LET GO OF THE NEGATIVE AND SEARCH FOR THE POSITIVE IN THE FUTURE.